November 28th and November 29th 2017, I attended a Clinical Awareness Training for clinicians in the local area. The goal was to learn more about the firefighter culture in order to be more effective in treating Fire Fighters in a clinical manner. We discussed how to distinguish signs and symptoms of stress within the firefighter, and how being a firefighter, police officer or first responder is how they highly identify themselves more so than a civilian would. This collaborative effort assists newly hired fire fighters, the firefighter’s family members and friends. We specifically talked about Suicide, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder & Addictions with the field.
Please check out the website: http://www.floridafirefightersafety.org and to see how you can assist in understanding with education, training and the sharing of best practices to minimize risk and exposure to our Florida Fire Fighters.
There is a gift for us that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we are learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.
Some relationships trigger healing in us-healing from issues of the past or an issue we are facing today.
Sometimes we find ourselves learning the most important lessons from the people we least expect to help us. Relationships may teach us about loving ourselves or someone else, or just maybe we will learn to let others love us.
Sometimes, we are not certain what lessons we are learning, especially while we are in the midst of the process. However, we can trust that the lesson & gift are there. We do not have to control this process. We will understand, when it is time. We can also trust that the gift is precisely what we need.
Today, let us be grateful for all our relationships. Let us open ourselves to the lesson & gift from each person in our lives and trust that we are also a gift in other people’s lives.
Many of us have been emotionally, physically, or spiritually hurt. That pain often turns into anger and resentment as we replay the events that occur in our heads, reliving the moment again and again. This, in and of itself, is very destructive behavior because we can actually pull the past into our present preventing any sustainable level of growth. Here are a few things to consider if you are having difficulty moving forward.
- Forgiveness can break the connection – When there is someone in your life that you are having a hard time forgiving, the energy of that person and situation remains within you. You continue to allow the pain, the abuse and the trauma to remain with you. This is a choice. Forgiveness is not something that you can or cannot do. It is simply a matter of choosing to change your thoughts, beliefs and ideas about a given situation or person in your life.
- Forgiveness will bring you closer to who you are – When you are unable to forgive, you deny your own power as the creator of your life and hand it over to the other person basically saying you are subject to the will of another. The reality is you are a very powerful being who has been given free will and the unlimited power to create whatever you want to be, do or have. Once you remember this, forgiveness will become second nature because now you understand that nothing can exert itself against you. The only things that come to you are those things you have drawn to your through your thinking.
- Forgiveness allows others to grow– The act of forgiveness allows the other person to move on. Until you are able to forgive and release a person from the responsibility for you pain, this person remains connected to you. Forgiveness creates harmony because you are handing the other person a passport to more freedom and joy. In doing so, you are creating an environment in which you can thrive.
- Self forgiveness removes layers of shame and guilt– It means being willing to exercise compassion toward yourself. Let go of the fear of the unworthiness and failure and learn to accept you as you are.
- Give yourself a gift- By forgiving; you empower yourself and your spirituality. You heal deep-rooted pain that perhaps you thought was long gone, but has survived, living under long-held resentment. By forgiving you are one step closer to your journey of self-growth and healing.
“Who are you willing to forgive in your life?”
We salute every soldier who’s
served this great nation.
And offer a heart of thanks
We salute each member
of our armed forces.
And are thankful for their
efforts and resources!
We salute the many who
protect our borders too.
We’d be in trouble…
If not for people like YOU!
We salute every son and
daughter lost in a war.
YOU are what serving this
country is meant for!
We salute the officers who’ve
guided our women and men.
Our prayers are with you!
And our love from within!
We salute our veterans!
Wherever they may be!
Those who served on
land, air and sea!
Offering prayer to the
Lord is our belief…
That he will guide our
As we observe Memorial Day this year…
Let’s offer our soldiers
love, hope and cheer!
May God bless them in
all they endeavor
And his peace be with them
today and forever!!
By Jim Pemberton
Have you ever had a disagreement with a co-worker? You probably have at one time or another. Workplace conflicts are very common; there are very few offices where all the employees get along. Because of this, conflict resolution is a necessary component of the workplace, and those in a leadership position must be skilled in conflict resolution techniques.
When conflicts go unaddressed, they can have a negative impact on productivity and teamwork. Using conflict resolution strategies in the workplace will help maintain a healthy work environment. Conflict resolution requires specific leadership skills, problem solving abilities and decision making skills.
Conflict Resolution Techniques
Consider the following conflict resolution techniques to help resolve issues in your office:
1.) Listen, Then Speak Out
o Believe it or not, just listening to an employee’s issue is the first and most important step in resolving conflict. You should simply listen to all parties involved to completely understand the nature of conflict, and then start troubleshooting solutions.
2.) Gather the Group
o As a leader, you’ll need to arrange a meeting with all involved parties to discuss the issue. Give everyone a chance to speak; this is a good opportunity to hear all sides and gain a full understanding of the conflict. Having a group meeting may also expedite a resolution that will satisfy everyone.
3.) Be Impartial
o Don’t take sides! In a leadership position, you shouldn’t display any sort of opinion that favors one person over another. If you are partial towards one person, try to access the situation from all sides to come up with a fair and reasonable solution.
4.) Do Not Postpone Conflict Resolution
o Address the conflict immediately. Otherwise, the situation could escalate and could affect employee performance. Just make sure not to address the situation too quickly or without careful consideration, as your decision will directly affect the demeanor and performance of your staff.
5.) Promote Teamwork
o Encouragement and motivation are powerful. Remind your staff of successful projects that required teamwork to complete. This is one of the most effective conflict resolution techniques and will really make the employees think about the importance of working in a team.
6.) Broadcast Praise
o As stated above, the power of encouragement and motivation can be multiplied when it is spread to recognize those who are modeling the teamwork and cooperation that is desired within any conflict. Try to give suitable models in these instances because behavior modeling can be risky if there are elements in the model that are undesirable.
In organizations and businesses, having people work collaboratively is the goal and for supervisors setting good examples of conflict resolution on their teams is a must. Employees will do more for their supervisors if they feel validated and worthy. This will make them want to work harder for their employer and increase job performance. Many organizations are about the bottom line / and cost effective analysis that the administration loses sight on the importance of having attention for the grass roots employees who are bringing in the money, that are not management. These are the people that need to be taken care of, and appreciated for their hard work and dedication and having a supervisor verbalize that, is deemed rewarding and gratifying to the employee.
These are just some tips that management can put into place when they are experiencing some conflict on their teams, in addition, to prevent conflict from ensuing.
As a manager, which 6 steps have worked best for you in your company? Or as an employee which 6 steps have been the most beneficial when working in your field?
Positive affirmation is a good way to try and change a mind accustomed to a negative thought process into a positive one. Every word that a person says and every thought made is an affirmation. Each affirmation conditions the mind and one’s way of thinking and acting. By carefully rethinking every affirmation into positive ones, a person can try to influence his or her mindset on the subconscious level to become positive. Positive affirmations can greatly affect the way a person thinks. It is all made through the inner dialogue and self-talk that a person does to himself or herself. People go through a lot of self-talk for a variety of reasons. They want to affirm a certain idea to stick in their minds. Inner dialogue can help condition the mind to rethinking its beliefs. Self-talk can actually influence a person’s behavior and actions.
1. THIS TOO SHALL PASS AND MY LIFE WILL BE BETTER.
2. I’M DOING THE BEST I CAN, GIVEN MY HISTORY AND LEVEL OF CURRENT AWARENESS.
3. LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, I AM A FALLIBLE PERSON AND AT TIMES WILL MAKE MISTAKES AND LEARN FROM THEM.
4. WHAT IS, IS.
5. LOOK AT HOW MUCH I HAVE ACCOMPLISHED, AND I AM STILL PROGRESSING.
6. THERE ARE NO FAILURES ONLY DIFFERENT DEGREES OF SUCCESS.
7. IT IS OKAY TO LET MYSELF BE DISTRESSED FOR AWHILE.
8. ONE STEP AT A TIME.
9. I CAN STAY CALM WHEN TALKING TO DIFFICULT PEOPLE.
10. I KNOW I WILL BE OKAY NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS.
11. THIS DIFFICULT SITUATION WILL SOON BE OVER.
12. IS THIS REALLY IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO BECOME UPSET ABOUT?
13. OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS ARE JUST THEIR OPINION.
14. OTHERS ARE NOT PERFECT, AND I WON’T PUT PRESSURE ON MYSELF BY EXPECTING THEM TO BE.
15. I CANNOT CONTROL THE BEHAVIOR OF OTHERS; I CAN ONLY CONTROL MY OWN BEHAVIORS.
16. I AM NOT RESPONSIBLE TO MAKE OTHER PEOPLE OKAY.
17. I WILL RESPOND APPROPRIATELY, AND NOT BE REACTIVE.
18. I FEEL BETTER WHEN I DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT THE THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIORS OF OTHERS.
19. I WILL ENJOY MYSELF, EVEN WHEN LIFE IS HARD.
20. I WILL ENJOY MYSELF WHILE CATCHING UP ON ALL I WANT TO ACCOMPLISH.
21. DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF-IT’S ALL SMALL STUFF.
22. MY PAST DOESN’T CONTROL MY FUTURE.
23. I CHOOSE TO BE A HAPPY PERSON.
24. CHALLENGES MAKE ME GROW
25. I CAN SEE STRESSFUL SITUATIONS AS CHALLENGES
26. CHALLENGES BRING OPPORTUNITIES
27. I CAN CHOOSE A POSITIVE FRAME OF MIND
28. I CAN HANDLE WHATEVER COMES
29. TODAY HAS LIMITLESS POSSIBILITIES
30. I CAN FIND BALANCE IN MY LIFE
31. I CAN FIND LOVE AND SUPPORT
32. I CAN ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING
33. I CAN HANDLE WHATEVER COMES
34. I CAN CREATE INNER PEACE
35. MY INTENTION IS FOR PEACE
36. I AM STRONG
37. PEACE IS POWER
38. THIS TOO SHALL PASS
39. MY INTENTIONS CREATE MY REALITY
40. STRESS IS LEAVING MY BODY
41. TODAY I CHOOSE JOY
42. I CAN MAKE HEALTHY CHOICES
43. I AM DOING MY BEST
44. I BREATHE IN PEACE
45. TODAY MY INTENTION IS FOR PEACE
46. I AM IN CHARGE OF MY LIFE
47. I HAVE MANY OPTIONS
48. I CAN CREATE POSITIVE CHANGE
49. I AM WISE
50. MY HAPPINESS COMES FROM WITHIN
51. I CAN START HEALTHY HABITS
52. EACH MOMENT BRINGS CHOICE
53. I CAN STAY CALM UNDER PRESSURE
54. I CHOOSE HAPPINESS
55. I CHOOSE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
56. I CAN FIND MY HAPPY PLACE
57. I EMBRACE STRESSFUL CIRCUMSTANCES AS CHALLENGES.
58. I CAN OVERCOME THIS OBSTACLE.
59. THROUGH STRESS, I GROW.
60. TENSION IS LEAVING MY BODY.
61. MY MIND IS AT PEACE.
62. I HAVE DONE ALL I CAN.
63. I CAN LET GO.
64. I AM WORTHY.